Sálom bájit / A férj irányítson?

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Vitaindító (Czink Tomi):

"A férfi feladata a család vezetése, ha ezt elveszed tőle, akkor elveszed a férfiasságát. Ezzel a nő el fogja veszíteni a vonzalmat is a férfi iránt."

משנה תורה, הלכות אישות ט״ו:י״ט

Similarly, our Sages commanded that a man honor his wife more than his own person, and love her as he loves his own person. If he has financial resources, he should offer her benefits in accordance with his resources. He should not cast a superfluous measure of fear over her. He should talk with her gently, being neither sad nor angry.

משנה תורה, הלכות אישות ט״ו:כ׳

And similarly, they commanded a woman to honor her husband exceedingly and to be in awe of him. She should carry out all her deeds according to his directives, considering him to be an officer or a king. She should follow the desires of his heart and shun everything that he disdains.
This is the custom of holy and pure Jewish women and men in their marriages. And these ways will make their marriage pleasant and praiseworthy.

מגיד משנה על משנה תורה, הלכות אישות ט״ו:כ׳:א׳

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מגדל עוז על משנה תורה, הלכות אישות ט״ו:כ׳:א׳

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תנא דבי אליהו רבה ט׳:א׳

Izevel, the daughter of Etba"al king of the Tzidonim and the wife of Achav, at the first time that she was brought before Achav taught him the ways of idol worshippers and because of her he was brought to become an idolater.

שולחן ערוך, אבן העזר ס״ט:ז׳

That which is said, that conditions are not effective to remove her inheritance - this is when he makes the condition after the marriage or before the engagement, but when he makes the condition with her while they are engaged, it is effective. Rema: Look farther on in section 92. Our Rabbis of blessed memory said: "There is no fitting woman except one who does the will of her husband." (Hagot Maimoni chapter 15 in the name of Tanna d'bei Eliyahu)